fix: untangle dependency between PatchManager and PgstacInfra stacks

[hrodmn]

I think I created this snarl by suggesting we pipe the instance ids from PgstacInfra into the PatchManger construct 😞

It will require manually deleting the PatchManager stacks to break the dependency that is blocking updates to the PgstacInfra stacks.

[jjfrench]

Is this because the instance ids are changing and this breaks the patch manager? does this behavior also need to change in eoapi-cdk then?

[hrodmn]

Is this because the instance ids are changing and this breaks the patch manager? does this behavior also need to change in eoapi-cdk then?

I think it is specific to maap-eoapi since we deploy the patch manager in a separate Stack? In eoapi-cdk it should be ok since the patch manager is contained within the PgstacDatabase construct.

[jjfrench]

Do you want to keep it as the instance ID's then? The SSM param route would also work with the instance names if you wanted it change less - also looks fine as is

[hrodmn]

@jjfrench I think I'll leave it as-is for now, I upgraded the eoapi-cdk version to 11.3.0 to catch the pgbouncer ami fix too so hopefully we get fewer resource changes in our future deployments!