Fix Ulysses SP backward with SDPA

[zhtmike]

What does this PR do?

Solve the issue #13319.

There are two bugs:

• grad_out is already in BSHD format, which matches the shape of out. Therefore, we do not need to permute grad_out again.
• autograd.Function.backward() does not store the gradient by default, so we need to enable it manually.

After the fix, running torchrun --nproc-per-node 2 toy_train.py --enable-sp can get the expected result

loss=1.351188

And we add the test coverage for backward ops with context parallel.

Tested with TestQwenImageTransformerContextParallel, TestFluxTransformerContextParallel and TestFlux2TransformerContextParallel.

Fixes # (issue)

• Fix Ulysses SP backward with SDPA

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@sayakpaul

[sayakpaul]

Ran the tests and they pass as well. Great work!